In fact, painting is the same skill as other life work! The reason why you can't learn to paint well is the same as the reason why you can't do other things. It's all about the following nine questions:
1, hesitate
What is worse than Reckless is hesitancy.
People who are swaying like a wall grass, no matter how powerful other things, are always easy to be squeezed aside by those who are firmly in the race of life. Learning painting is also the same. If you want to learn, then go to school, and want to draw what you paint first!
It’s hard to avoid making mistakes, but it’s better than nothing. Whitehead said: "Fearing mistakes is destroying progress."
2, delay
The plan is very full and the execution is very skinny.
Many times the delay is to avoid problems and laziness. Enlarge the difficulty in front of you, and discourage it, and hold all kinds of excuses to avoid the day-to-day mentality: "Difficult to learn painting", "boring work", "harsh boss", "I am too busy", " It doesn't matter if you do it every other day..."
As a result, we will fall into the quagmire of “work is getting more and more boring†and “life is getting boredâ€. More lazy, more negative, will fall into the trap of repentance and fantasy future.
Time accumulation leads to a stronger sense of guilt and self-denial, which makes people more and more anxious.
The famous thinker Roman Roland said: "Laziness is a very strange thing. It makes you think that it is comfort, rest, and blessing; but in fact it gives you boring, burnout, depression."
3, three minutes of heat
80% of the failures in the world stem from halfway.
The "three-minute heat" person just never experienced the joy brought about by persisting in one thing, because the process of persistence is always boring and full of setbacks, and human nature is also awkward.
“The first few pages of the notebook at the beginning of each year are full of grand study plans, and almost all of them are blank afterwards...†“I bought a good book, but unfortunately I haven’t started reading yet...†Determined to lose weight by fitness, gave up after almost 5 days..."
Almost everyone has had the experience of “an ambitious plan to give up and disheartenedly give up the planâ€.
4, afraid to refuse
Heavy and fragile self-esteem.
Most of the time, the “pain†we feel in interpersonal relationships is related to “feeling rejectedâ€.
Sometimes such rejection is obvious, such as the sudden departure of a lover; or being backed up and alienated by friends.
Sometimes, this kind of rejection can be very subtle. For example, if you give the other person a smile, the other person will look away; or you will have the courage to send a message to the other party, but the other party has a short reply.
A person who can let go of self-esteem to do things is a person who focuses on the goal-oriented outcomes; and those who put self-respect in the first place always pay attention to the attitudes of others in their own way when doing things in interpersonal relationships.
Therefore, the more a person has no use, the more obsessed with those insignificant bottom line and small self-esteem.
5, self-limit
Kill your own potential.
They often say this: I want to do A, but I am afraid I can't do it because of B, C, D, and E reasons.
Before they have done it, they will deny themselves and find a bunch of reasons for not working hard. All mediocrity and low achievement are the result of self-limitation.
In my heart, I default to a "height". This "psychological height" often implies that I can't do this thing, and I can do it almost.
This kind of psychological suggestion can help you to block the frustration caused by the failure of the task, temporarily maintain your sense of self-worth, but it deprives you of the chance to "go one step further".
La Rochefenko said: mediocre people are always complaining about things they don't understand.
6, escape from reality
Daydreaming patient.
People who escape from reality have five characteristics:
1. Always daydreaming – escaping from reality is more willing to create a small world of your own.
2. Like to do whatever you want, unfettered life - to say it is a longing for a leisurely life.
3. Addicted to games or magical novels - they can lead you into the magical world and let you escape from everyday life.
4. I feel that the real world is cruel – this is a common feature of escapist people, and often suffers from real life when searching for daydreams.
5. Can't face an uncertain environment – ​​because in the daydreams you create, you can find a sense of certainty and security.
The tragedy of man is that his eyes are low. Most people are excited to stop the Buddha when they are excited. They are imagining the world, but they can't courage in their daily lives. They talk very well with the neighbors who use the electric drill to drill the wall every weekend.
7, always find excuses
The fault is not me.
Once a person makes a mistake, the first reaction is often self-defense.
I recalled people who had known excuses for more than 30 years and found that they all have one thing in common: there is no strong professionalism, no persistent pursuit, and there is no firm belief in life.
Therefore, when they encounter pressure and encounter difficulties, they will not bear and do not want to bear it; when they encounter risks and encounter challenges, they will retreat. If you don’t bear it, you have to back down and force them to make excuses.
Because finding excuses is the easiest thing to do, it's a way to hide your ignorance, and then look for self-comfort.
8, fear
Be cautious and weak.
They always have this feeling in their work: they are afraid of being criticized by leaders, they are afraid of others feeling incompetent, they are afraid of being aware of their own shortcomings, they are concerned about the evaluation of others, they are afraid of making mistakes, and they are afraid that their efforts will not be rewarded.
I think of a sentence: I dare not work hard to ponder myself, afraid that I finally know that I am not a jade; but there is a hint of hope in my heart, and I will not be willing to be with the rubble.
In fact, it is the weakness of the mind, and is unwilling to face frustration.
Wang Hao once said to his daughter: "The soup is more important than writing poetry. Your craft is more important than men. Hair and chest and waist and butt are more important than faces. It is more important to be a bastard than anything else."
9, refuse to learn
You are not lonely, just don't want to learn.
Learning requires a brain, self-growth needs to constantly fight against yourself, how painful! Not as comfortable as lying at home playing mobile phones to watch movies.
Then, when you see that your peers are higher than you and have lived better than you, you are sighing in the circle of friends.
"I have never seen it. Every day from busy to play, people who are tired and returning home are too empty and lonely. Most people are empty and lonely, basically they are full and have nothing to do."
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